As World Mental Health Day approaches on October 10, mental health awareness is at the forefront. A simple question, "Are you okay?", can be a crucial step in starting a conversation with someone who may be struggling. However, the follow-up can be challenging. The World Health Organization's theme this year is "Lived experiences heard: real voices, real change", highlighting the importance of people with lived experience being heard and involved in mental health decisions.
When someone responds to "Are you okay?" by saying they're not doing well, it's essential to listen rather than offer advice. Let them know you're concerned, offer a space to talk, and reassure them you're there to listen. Open questions like "How have you been feeling?" or "What has been going on?" can help keep the conversation going. Phrases like "I'm glad you told me" or "I'm here to listen" can also be helpful.
The goal is to create a conversation where the person feels able to speak without being judged. Don't force someone to talk or push them into getting help before they're ready. Give them space, listen without judgment, and let them know you're available if they want to talk. It's also essential to check in again later, as someone may not feel comfortable discussing their struggles during the first conversation.
If someone tells you they're feeling hopeless or thinking about suicide, it's crucial to take their concerns seriously. The World Health Organization says it's okay to talk about suicide and that asking someone if they're thinking about it can reduce anxiety and help them feel understood. In South Africa, the South African Depression and Anxiety Group (SADAG) offers a 24-hour toll-free Suicide Crisis Helpline at 0800 567 567.
You don't have to be a counselor or have all the answers to start a mental health conversation. Sometimes, the most useful response is simply to listen. You can ask if the person wants advice or would prefer someone to listen. Offering practical support, such as helping them find professional assistance or accompanying them to an appointment, can also be helpful.
The conversation shouldn't end with one question. "Are you okay?" can be a starting point for ongoing conversations. A genuine check-in can be as simple as sending a message, making a phone call, or sitting down with someone over coffee. It's essential to plan conversations around mental health when both parties have time and choose a comfortable environment.
The message for World Mental Health Day is that asking someone if they're okay can create an opportunity to listen and provide support. By giving someone the space to share their struggles, you can help them feel less alone and more supported.
Key points
- - A simple question like "Are you okay?" can be a crucial step in starting a conversation with someone who may be struggling with their mental health. - Listening without judgment and offering a space to talk can be more helpful than offering advice. - Ongoing conversations and genuine check-ins can provide continued support and help someone feel less alone.
