In a recent interview on the Egyptian radio show "Baynah w Baynha" on Nogoum FM, Dr. Mahab Majid, a prominent psychiatrist, shared his insights on the evolution of love after marriage and the reasons behind the decline of emotions and escalation of conflicts between couples. He emphasized that it's natural for love to transform after marriage, and if it doesn't, it may lead to loss. According to Dr. Majid, a well-known theory called the "love triangle" consists of three essential elements: desire, intimacy, and commitment to the relationship.
Dr. Majid explained that before marriage, love is often incomplete or immature, but once couples start living together, the romantic feelings may only last for about six months. He attributed this to the fact that people often idealize their partners and have unrealistic expectations. As the relationship progresses, the differences and imperfections become apparent, leading to potential conflicts. The psychiatrist emphasized that humans have an inherent desire for perfection, which can be an unattainable goal.
The common complaints from men and women in relationships were also discussed by Dr. Majid. According to him, men often feel unappreciated, while women feel insecure. He explained that for women, feeling secure means having a partner who will take responsibility for his roles and family, and not abandon them. A simple "thank you" can go a long way in alleviating tensions and stress in relationships.
Dr. Majid stressed the importance of mutual respect, appreciation, and commitment in a relationship. He believed that when these elements are present, couples can work through challenges and build a strong foundation for their relationship. The psychiatrist also highlighted the significance of communication and remembering one's roles and responsibilities in the relationship.
The conversation also touched on the increasing trend of divorce, particularly in the first year of marriage. Dr. Majid attributed this to the ease of getting married and divorced, as well as the lack of commitment and understanding between partners. He advised couples in their first year of marriage to focus on building a strong connection and not to consider divorce as an option.
Dr. Majid's message to newlyweds was clear: they should focus on getting to know each other and building a strong foundation for their relationship. He suggested that couples should try to avoid discussing divorce and instead work on creating a positive and supportive environment. Additionally, he recommended that couples consider postponing having children for at least a year to allow them to establish a stable and healthy relationship.
In conclusion, Dr. Majid emphasized the importance of understanding and working on relationships. By recognizing the essential elements of mature love and being aware of the common challenges that couples face, individuals can build stronger and more fulfilling relationships. By prioritizing communication, respect, and commitment, couples can navigate the complexities of relationships and create a happy and healthy partnership.
Key points
- Dr. Mahab Majid identifies three essential elements of mature love: desire, intimacy, and commitment.
- Common complaints from men and women in relationships include feeling unappreciated and insecure, respectively.
- Dr. Majid advises newlyweds to focus on building a strong connection and avoiding discussions of divorce.
