A 39-year-old Nigerian woman has taken to a Punch column to share her struggles with maintaining her virginity in a society where it is increasingly becoming a rarity. The woman, who did not disclose her name, revealed that she has been advised medically to try and get pregnant due to fibroids, but she is hesitant to do so outside of marriage. Her decision has led to her losing potential suitors, with some men reportedly unwilling to wait until marriage to have sex with her.
The woman's story began with an almost-wedded couple that called off their introduction due to her refusal to engage in premarital sex. The man had suggested that they start living together as a couple after the introduction, but she insisted that introduction is not marriage and that she would not engage in sex before her wedding night. This led to the cancellation of the introduction. She has since encountered another man who also pressured her for sex, leading to a heated argument and their eventual separation.
The woman's decision to maintain her virginity has not only led to her being mocked by others but also to her feeling isolated and alone. Some people have questioned her choice, suggesting that if she was married with children, they would believe that it pays to be sexually abstinent. The woman revealed that such comments have broken her heart, and she has cried to God to remember her. Her story has sparked a range of reactions, with some people offering words of encouragement and support.
Evangelist Temilolu Okeowo, who wrote a response to the woman's story in the Punch column, offered her words of encouragement and support. Okeowo shared that she has encountered similar challenges in her own life, including mockery and hurtful comments from others. However, she encouraged the woman to remain steadfast in her decision, citing examples of women who have gotten married and had children at an older age while maintaining their virginity.
Okeowo also addressed the issue of fibroids, which the woman had mentioned as a concern. She noted that many sexually active women also suffer from fibroids and that getting pregnant does not necessarily cure the condition. In fact, some women may experience pain and heavy bleeding after delivery. Okeowo encouraged the woman to activate the power of God in her life to guide her and shed more light on her destiny.
The woman's story has sparked a wider conversation about the challenges faced by women who choose to maintain their virginity in a society where premarital sex is increasingly becoming the norm. Many women have shared their own experiences of being pressured for sex or being mocked for their choices. The story highlights the need for greater support and understanding for women who choose to maintain their virginity.
As the woman looks to the future, she remains hopeful that she will find a partner who respects her choices and values her virginity. Okeowo encouraged her to remain steadfast and to trust in God's plan for her life. The woman's story serves as a reminder that everyone's journey is unique, and that there is no one-size-fits-all approach to relationships and marriage.
Key points
- A 39-year-old Nigerian woman struggles to maintain her virginity in a society where premarital sex is common.
